Five months.
How did the time go by?
In the book “Stillborn: the Invisible Death” one woman wrote that after your baby dies, all that you can look for to help the healing is Time. But sometimes, it seems as if Time has stood still.
What a stabbing statement. I can really feel her pain, and totally relate [...]
Archive for December, 2007
Five Months
Posted in Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 31, 2007 | Leave a Comment »
Trying again: A Guide to Pregnancy after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant loss
Posted in Books, Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 26, 2007 | Leave a Comment »
For some reason I felt I have to read something like this before we decide to try again. Although, for R, this is not “again”. He said this will be our first and last try. Our pregnancies have never been results of conscientiously trying to procreate. It was always a surprise bonus to the pleasure [...]
Stillborn: The Invisible Death
Posted in Books, Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 26, 2007 | Leave a Comment »
The cover of this book just makes your heart stop. And bleed. Very dark maroon cover, with just the big word “STILLBORN” in a simple font right at the top. The font color is kind of a yellow-orange, a bit like the color of the sky when the sun is starting to only peep out [...]
Your ornaments
Posted in Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 26, 2007 | 1 Comment »
Dear Ferdinand,
at the celebration dinner D gave me this sock that she knitted. It is for our tree. Later I learned that she used that same yarn to knit socks for herself and she said every time she wears those socks she will be thinking of you.
I sat and rubbed my fingers over the [...]
Their journeys
Posted in Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 25, 2007 | 1 Comment »
The other day I told R, “I think Sophia is experiencing delayed grief.”
I’m not sure if the grief experts have such a term. I guess they do. But it was just something that came to my mind.
In the beginning, when we knew Ferdinand had died, and we told the girls, Valerie immediately plunged into grieving. [...]
Poems from T.
Posted in Grieving/healing/finding Hope on December 25, 2007 | Leave a Comment »
T shared the following two beautiful and touching poems with me. I will add them to the Poems page but wanted to post here because I wanted to mention that the first poem was read at her son Kevin’s tree planting on his first birthday. Mothers of stillborns want their children remembered. Kevin is remembered. [...]
