My dear friends,
you have always been here but invisible. It was with Ferdinand’s death that you and your worlds became visible to me. I realized that every day, mothers’ hearts are broken, bent over their babies they will not get to see grow up. Though we may never meet, you have made life after so much more bearable, even beautiful. You are not just company, but also comfort and inspiration. Once again, I thank you.
I need your help here. I have been contacted by a mother whose daughter will only get to keep one of her twins. I know some of you know this story well, and I understand how going back to the beginning of the story once again must hurt. So I appreciate any way you can help. M will have two grand-children, both names starting with L. One is a boy and one will be a girl. Baby girl L may not get to breathe life outside her mother’s womb, while baby boy L is looking healthy. M is wondering about the announcements and how to go about it. I am also wondering about any support sites or groups out there for their circumstances.
Your ideas, suggestions and experiences are going to be most useful and deeply appreciated.
Much love and gratitude,
Janis
Working on it (announcement help)… give her my email if she is open to it…
xo Leslie
I’m so sorry to hear that news and unfortunately at this time I don’t have any sites that could be of help. As you mentioned, I, along with the rest of your followers, are here to virtually support you and her as it is needed. Hope that other members can come back with some helpful sites.
Oh, how heartbreaking. Catherine’s blog at Between the Snow and the Huge Roses always comes to mind first in these situations. She balances her joy and sorrow with such grace, beauty and honesty.
xo
Oh dear. I know I have read some wonderful examples of this sort of announcement over the years, but I’ll be darned if I can think of where right now. The wording went along the lines of welcoming one baby & saying goodbye to or mourning the loss of the other.
Sorry I am so late to this post. What a horrible thing to go through. When George was sick and we knew he was going to die I joined a forum on Baby Center called Carrying Pregnancy Despite Poor or Fatal Prenatal Diagnosis. Many, many people on that forum were facing losing one twin while carrying a healthy one as well. It ended up not being a good fit for me since it has a distinctly religious undertone as many of the women there were carrying to term because (or at least partially because) of their religious views, while I was not. But it may be a good fit for this woman and the people on the forum can provide a lot of support and experience as they are very sweet and understanding.
http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a6711405/carrying_pregnancy_despite_poor_or_fatal_prenatal_diagnosis
Janis, if you’d like to email me, I will reply to you with a copy of the birth announcement I designed for my twins.
You may also direct her to this site: http://www.climb-support.org/
Thank you, all you beautiful mama’s who have contacted me and tried to help in all ways. All so appreciated.
Thinking of your sweet babies, sending much love.
xo
Janis